I am a very lucky man to have great friends like Bec still from my childhood. Very hard to be sad when you are busy appreciating what you have! My big lesson for 2013.
Even though I am in the body of a 35 Year Old Persian Man, quite a few people have commented on the fact that I don’t sound 35 at all. Even a few reflected on the fact, that I almost sound like someone in their later years (at least 60 a few have said!).
I think a big reason for this has been the strange life I have had. My teens were quite unusual in a lot of respects and for whatever reason, I have had a very extreme, intense life and have changed careers many times. I think also in almost dying once as well and have to resolve my fear of death in my early 20’s has given me a different perspective compared to many.
2013 has been an amazing year for growth in all areas and I sit here now with gratitude and a sense of happiness. It has been a tough year of many defeats (especially on a personal front) but many great wins which I have completely enjoyed and are quite thankful in.
I will be straight up with you, Christmas Seasons are a tough time for me. For many people actually, Christmas can be a very lonely time of year especially if you buy into the “Nuclear Family” and Christmas ideals. Part of my own personal frustration this year has ironically been on a relationship front. Not just myself, but many of my close friends have been in a similar spot – relationships ending, new ones beginning and I have realized that the relationship side of things is part dedication and part luck for sure. Including myself this got me down at points, however I realized that I was playing the “Victim” and was letting my unfilled expectations get the better of me.
The business is rocking and this year has been a large growth in myself. I always thought by now I would be married with children (that was a great show wasn’t it?) and overtime I have learnt to accept that this is not the case – but not letting it get me down.
I think what was getting me down was the fact I wasn’t appreciating what is working. YES, relationship wise I am single and YES things haven’t worked out in this area despite my best efforts – but YES, I have so amazing friends, YES Great Health, YES great opportunities and successes this year in almost every other area of my life.
So yes, I was being HALF-EMPTY and not HALF-FULL and that was making me sad and unhappy.
The only cure to me for being down in lack / “Half Empty” is gratitude. Appreciating what you have in your life. Sure, I am a bit lonely on the relationship front and Christmas will be a bit of a tough one – but it’s minor in the scheme of things. There is so much better stuff in my life as long as I focus on it.
So if you are feeling a bit blue with some areas of your life not working out – my advice; appreciation what you have, smile and hit them hard in 2014.
Thank you for the read and whenever you read this, I hope you have / had a great 2013 break!
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