Negative Emotions: We don’t need them. We don’t want them!

Reza and I totally clicked when it came to talking negative emotions and how to ‘conquer’ them once and for all.

I had a wonderful conversation at a workshop with my old pal Reza. He is an extremely good looking Persian guy (like myself lol) who speaks with directness, kindness and strength.

Reza has started his new business and we were sharing stories about how we honestly have gone when we are in business for ourselves. The first thing we talked about was the massive ‘ups’ and ‘downs’ when you start out.

It’s so true! You get a rejection and it feels like your world is falling apart. You get a win and you start mentally picking out the colour of your brand-new Aston Martin you plan to order the next month.

One key point of the discussion we totally agreed on was how you often don’t feel ‘good’ when you start out in business. For whatever reason (be it right or wrong), when we start our businesses we can ‘feel bad’.

I did for a range of reasons from dealing with being a perfectionist, the inability to handle making mistakes and just getting used to rejection.

Reza totally felt negative emotions (for different reasons) and I made this point that we both loved and laughed on:

• Negative Emotions. We don’t need them. We don’t want them!

For me, whenever I get a totally dumb, illogical negative emotion, I fight it! I don’t let it take me over and whatever I do, I shall not let it impact my productivity.

There have been may times I didn’t want to sell or work where I pushed against my negative emotions and just made myself do it.

The result of this was that every time I overcame my emotions I got stronger. Discipline kicked in over time it’s become stronger and stronger. Sure, I feel bad emotions at time but they don’t have the hold over me like they used too.

My advice and thinking? Negative emotions can be useless most of the time. Sometimes they are legit, but most of the time it’s a dumb distraction and it’s where we must fight the way we feel. The more we fight it with logic, reason and fact; is the stronger we get as business people for now and the future.

Attack our negative emotions and nurture our positive emotions! It makes business more fun, easier and productive. As for my pal Reza; I am pumped to know that he is kicking his negative emotions to the curb. Make sure you tell yours where to go!

Love your work, thanks for the read and stay awesome!